Unsafe Words
Queering Consent in the #MeToo Era
Telling a queerer side of the #MeToo story, Unsafe Words dares to challenge dogmatic assumptions about sex and consent while developing tools and language to promote more ethical and more pleasurable sex for everyone.
Reading Unsafe Words and the ways the various essays reckon with the #MeToo movement filled a need that had been lacking, a return to the hashtag and a pulling apart of what its focus had become. The essays in this book take a deep-dive into multiple facets of consent, grapple with white supremacy and mass incarceration and carceral attitudes within the queer community, talk about repair after harm, and reflect on situations where it’s unclear whether or how or to whom harm occurred. I found the book challenging in the best ways at times.'
With this dazzling collection of meditations and provocations from leading scholars in the field of sexuality studies, Unsafe Words offers something we desperately need: a place to ask the queer questions about consent that dare not speak their names. Can consent be queered? What happens when queer and feminist sexual politics clash over questions of consent? How does the prevailing consent paradigm perpetuate the harms of the criminal legal system and thwart more just possibilities for redress? This is a must-read for both activists and scholars of sexual ethics alike.'
Unsafe Words provides many urgently needed, generative, and useful ways to think about sexual ethics beyond the punitive, and lets the kinds of people whose sex lives were never destigmatized (or even decriminalized) lead readers in asking better questions.
TREVOR HOPPE is an assistant professor of sociology at the University of North Carolina, Greensboro. His research analyzes the social control of sex by institutions of medicine, law, and public health. He is the author of Punishing Disease: HIV and the Criminalization of Sickness and co-editor of The War on Sex.
Series Foreword by E. G. Crichton and Jeffrey Escoffier
Introduction
Shantel Gabrieal Buggs and Trevor Hoppe
Part 1: Queering Consent
1. Sex Workers Are Experts on Sexual Consent
Angela Jones
2. Consent in the Dark
Alexander Cheves
3. Lost in the Dark—Or How I Learned to Queer Consent
Trevor Hoppe
4. The Straight Rules Don’t Apply: Lesbian Sexual Ethics
Jane Ward
5. Momentos de consentimiento: Consent in Lesbian Relationships in Mexico City
Gloria González-López and Anahi Russo Garrido
6. Black Femmedom as Violence and Resistance
Mistress Velvet
7. Consent through My Lens: A Photo Essay
Don (D. S.) Trumbull
Part 2: Responding to Sexual Harm
8. Before Consent, after Harm
Blu Buchanan
9. Rejecting the (Black Fat) Body as Invitation
Shantel Gabrieal Buggs
10. My Firsts: On Gaysian Sexual Ethics
James McMaster
11. Was I a Teenage Sexual Predator?
Mark S. King
12. (Trans)forming #MeToo: On Freedom for the “Unbelievable” Survivors of Gender Violence
V. Jo Hsu
13. “Oppression Was at My Doorstep from Birth”: A Conversation on Prison Abolition
Dominique Morgan and Trevor Hoppe
Acknowledgments
Notes on Contributors
Index